Ex is in the ICU. He’s had two heart attacks, is on a ventilator, is tachycardic, and running a fever amongst other things. They haven’t been able to lower his heart rate. So they can’t do anything more for him until they can get his heart rate down.
We grew up together. We wound up married due to circumstances, not because we were or ever would be friends. Maybe that happens to a lot of people.
I was told this morning that the doctors were surprised he was still holding on. I cried. I wasn’t expecting to have an emotional reaction. I never hated him. In fact, I wished him well. Still, I didn’t expect to feel this bad.
He hasn’t recognized anyone, so I expect he won’t know me. I’m going 3,000 to say goodbye to my first love.
I don’t think there’s anymore to say. The end.
Hopefully a miracle will occur.
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Thanks Tom. I hope so. Dee
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Hugs.
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Thanks, Allan. I appreciate it. Dee
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We never, really, know how deep our emotions are until we are faced with a situation like this. It brings back all our past feelings and emotions.
Our feelings run deep. My heart goes out to you. It is possible that he will recognize you, and your voice, as his feelings are deep, too. The recognition may even calm his heart and allow for treatment to proceed. And, he may have a second chance of life. But, if he passes, you will find that you will cry very hard, and you will go through a period of deep grief. Let all of your emotions and feelings be felt. It will take a while to get through this, but, you will.
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So very true and poetic. Thanks. Dee
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I feel your hurt, your empathy, your memory, your love. Sometimes it is those who are so opposite from us that teach so much about who we really are…and for that we will always love them.
I pray for his health, that life will breathed into him.
Thanks for the share and be well.
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Thank you so much for your thoughts. I appreciate it. Dee
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Peace be with you and also with him.
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Thank you, Len. I hope whatever happens, he feels the least amount of pain possible. Dee
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Sorry to hear. Sending all my love
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Thank you Cheryl. Funny how someone’s support I’ve never met means something to me. Dee
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Any relationship, is an investment in time, resources and an investment of the heart. By nature, we do not let go easily and it is best to be kind to yourself and surround yourself with people who can do the same. Gently now!
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Thank you very much, Lea. It so true. Dee
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Dee, I wish you all the best. Léa
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Thank you Lea. Dee
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When you face the loss of someone whom you have known a long time, someone you loved at a point in life, it is difficult. Do not trouble your self with the “What if’s”; but know that you gave it your best when you were able. Letting go and saying goodbye is never easy; but often, when people are dying, they need to know they “can” go and that you will be all right. Say your goodbyes and wish your lifelong friend good travels.
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So beautifully said. Thank you. Dee
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This is an emotional and confusing time. You have had a history with your ex. Hard to forget that and now you see how vulnerable he is and of course, you’re broken hearted.
Wish him well and a return to health. Sending your positive energy to get through this. ❤ ❤ ❤
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I hope so. I always wanted him to be happy. Thanks. Dee
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You have a kind heart. ❤
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Thank you. You’re very kind. Dee
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❤ ❤ ❤
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Thanks, my lovely friend.
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You are more than welcome. ❤
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Let yourself feel the moment. First loves are important. Take care.
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I haven’t given myself permission to be upset. Thank you. Dee
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I’m sorry you have to make the trek and are having to deal with this pain. You will feel so much better making the trip and I hope all ends well.
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I hope so. Thank you, John. Dee
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I’m so sorry – for you, for him, for the people he’s close to now.
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Thank you, Sharon. He’s so young. I can’t believe he could be this ill. Dee
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Strength and healing to you. Yotaki Beautywalk
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Thank you so much. I appreciate it. Dee
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Hugs and prayers.
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Thank you, Mary. Your comment is so very appreciated. Dee
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I have nothing to add to the other comments, but I want you to know that I’ll be thinking of you as well during this difficult time. Like one of the other commenters said: hugs.
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Thank you, Cordelia. I appreciate it. Dee
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very sad to lose part of your past
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Thank you, Lorie. I appreciate your comment. Dee
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“I cried. I wasn’t expecting to have an emotional reaction.”
Not a thing wrong in shedding tears. Regardless the relationship that you two had, a permanent bond was formed. That bond will last more than each of your lifetimes.
May both of you have peace of mind.
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Whether or not it was the right relationship, you still had a bond–and a very long-lived one–with your ex. All of the feelings you have are perfectly natural. And besides, what kind of person would you be if you felt nothing? The take-away from this is something someone I worked with once said to me. He said, “All we ever have is each other.” I asked him if he meant in a broader, semi-spiritual kind of way, or the fact that he and I had to have each other’s backs while working for a shitty boss. He said, “Both.” It’s stuck with me. Some folks are on your path, or you are on theirs, or it’s mutual. But we form bonds whether we realize it or not. Remind yourself that it’s okay to feel, whatever those feelings are.
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Thank you for your kind words and insight. Dee
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Here’s a hug and hope it brings some comfort…
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All of the comments I’ve received have been very comforting. Thanks, Donald. Dee
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You’re welcome, Dee
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You are right to do so, not only for him but most importantly for yourself. Bless you, Deidra…..
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Thank you so much for your support. Dee
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I’m glad you’re going to visit him. It’s important for you to make that connection, even if it ends up not being the final goodbye. The heart is a strange and mysterious organ. Hang in there. –
Gale
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Thank you for reaffirming my thought. Dee
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You were at one time connected so it is not surprising that you should feel such emotion.
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Very true. Thanks, Lulu. Dee
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I know there is nothing that can be said to help ease what you are going through. Positive thoughts are being sent your way. Best of luck, and don’t give up. ❤
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Thank you for your support during this time, Robin. Every comment helps to keep my spirit up. Dee
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Late to the party, still sending energy. Go. It matters: to him and you. Ditto on the hugs from all the above
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Thank old friend. I appreciate the affirmation. I feel a little out of place, but glad I’m here. Dee
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Someone who was a part of your past becomes a part of you…my heart goes out to you during a complicated time.
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That’s a beautiful thought. Thanks Stefanie. Dee
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Some of our posts aren’t the happiest. I’m very sorry a person in your life, presumably too young based on my perception of your age, is facing a health threat. My Mom has heart issues recently but seems to be given time to heal them and improve. My support flies with you, Deidra.
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Thank you, Carolyn. I appreciate and need everyone’s support. Dee
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Really sorry to hear this. I will be thinking of you both. All the best.
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Thank you, Chris. Dee
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